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Blessing Those Who Have Blessed You

By |September 11th, 2017|

Who has been a blessing in your life? Who do you need to thank or show gratitude or appreciate more for having been that blessing to you? Maybe it was a teacher years ago that a simply word of appreciation would make the teacher’s life feel worth it all. Maybe it is a doctor, or an attorney or a neighbor that was there for you in a crisis or major time of need? When you think of the mentors and others influencers in your life, how might you be able to bless them in return? It maybe even an [...]

5 Principles of Living Philanthropy

By |September 10th, 2017|

Philanthropy is a life-long journey of loving, listening, learning, liberating and finally living your legacy. Since philanthropy is about the love of others, then loving others is required first and foremost if you truly want to live a life of philanthropy. And the foundation that allows you to love others authentically and for their benefit is humility. Without first being grounded in a humble reality that other people need love and they need to be heard, you will never truly create an impact of genuine philanthropic living. For loving is listening. When you listen to the concerns and needs [...]

Foolish Philanthropic Leadership

By |September 9th, 2017|

You may want to save the world, but be realistic. You may want to run a marathon, but have you ever run a 5K road race? You may want to raise $10 million dollars but have you ever even raised much less handled $100,000? If your head is in the clouds, then hopefully someone can gently bring you back down to reality. If you don’t have the know-how, then you don’t know how. If you don’t have the emotional and mental and spiritual capacity to take on more, then you might need to learn being content first. Too many [...]

Your Annual Report Sucks!

By |September 8th, 2017|

Does your nonprofit’s annual report look and feel like all of the other annual reports out there? You have a warm welcoming letter from the founder or founders. You will have lots of fun smiling faces of real people your organization has helped over the past year. You may even have before and after photos especially if your organization performs surgeries for children with cleft lip and cleft palate. Then of course you’ll have some cool charts and bar graphs and pie graphs showing the impact and where all the money is going. This of course tends to show [...]

Are You Spotlighting the Donor or the Charity?

By |September 7th, 2017|

If you are appealing to me to give from a position of my ego, then you really do not know me. And if you really do not know me, then how many others within your donor base do you really do not even get? A few toxic immature and often wealthy donors may give from their pride and ego, but most people are not thinking about themselves when they are making decisions in giving to the poor or giving to charity. Most healthy donors are actually thinking about the end recipients of their generosity. Sophisticated donors are even thinking [...]

The EGO-Centric Donor

By |September 6th, 2017|

The ego believes it is the ruler of your life. The ego thinks it is the master of your destiny. The ego has no place for God much less others. In fact, the only place for others is for them to worship your ego, bow down to your ego and to stroke your ego by singing its praises. The ego deceives people into believing they are the king of their world. And what they say, goes. They make life happen. But really the ego extinguishes God out of your life. It leaves people totally lost, deceived, blinded by their [...]

Cars Crash, Generosity Flows

By |September 5th, 2017|

You’re driving through a parking lot and all of a sudden another car pulls directly out not realizing you are driving by. You try to swerve out of the way, honk your horn, but it is too late. The other driver has just hit you. It is clearly their fault. You have eye witnesses that get out of their cars to testify to what occurred. You make sure the driver is okay and that you are okay. You realize the car that just hit would isn’t some fancy expensive sports car, but most likely it is a much older [...]

You May Overpay to Be a Blessing

By |September 4th, 2017|

When people bless you, it is just natural to want to bless them back. When someone smiles at you, it is just natural to smile back. When we can mirror back positive acts of kindness and generosity, then the world will slowly but surely become a healthier and happier place to live and give. Just recently, a workman gave me a bill for $90 and then said, “because I love you so much I’m going charging a third of what I normally charge people.” This warmed my heart and rather than wanting to take advantage of his generosity, I [...]

Transactional Giving to Transformational Giving

By |September 3rd, 2017|

There was a friend who couldn’t afford some medication, so what do you do? Do let your friend go without the medication, which is very much needed even if it is in your power to purchase it? Well, if you want to be a blessing and live a life of generosity and philanthropy, then you do the loving thing; you purchase the medication for your friend. This maybe just a one-time event that will forever be seared in the heart and mind of your friend, or it may reoccur from time to time. Nevertheless, I know someone who did [...]

Professional Fundraising Teams: Watch Out!

By |September 2nd, 2017|

If your favorite charity has decided to hire a third party professional development / fundraising team, then you as a donor have every right to know how much of your donation will be going to them. Some for-profit fundraising entities take an enormous percentage from every dollar they raise, while others work solely on a fixed flat rate. Some groups will have certain percentage incentives that will decrease as their ability to raise more money increases; something very similar to traditional money managers. The more money you give them to make you money, often their fees decrease. And if [...]