psychology of giving

Deep Values = Deeper Giving

By |September 21st, 2017|

The clearer one becomes with their values, the clearer they will be with their philanthropy. The good news is there are lots of generous givers in the world that have all kinds of interests, desires and values. As a nonprofit leader, you don’t have to have all the donors in the world to be financially successful. You just need the right donors who truly share your mission, vision and values deeply. I share lots of values that fit well with many nonprofits, but I do not hold them all with the same degree of passion and depth. I may [...]

Saying No To Giving Requests

By |September 20th, 2017|

No wealth holder, public philanthropist, or even anonymous generous giver ever likes turning down requests for money. People want to be liked and they want to help others in need. But sometimes giving to charities to individuals in need is not the wisest or best way to bring real help. And sometimes it is just not a good time for the generous giver to bless others financially as they may want to do so, due to their own personal lives and finances. Just because someone maybe considered wealthy, does not mean they necessarily have positive extra cash flow to [...]

Advising Grieving Families About Memorial Funds

By |September 19th, 2017|

Often pain drives people to start private foundations, memorial funds, to public charities. In many cases, a fund is created at the death of a loved one to help family and others with expenses and awareness and to memorialize their loved one. The assumption is everyone needs a tax deduction before they will give, therefore, lawyers are often too quick to set up a nonprofit entity to receive such generous gestures of money. Of course this does not happen every time someone dies, but it occurs more often than necessary; especially around the death of young children and teenagers. [...]

What’s it Mean to Be a Blessing?

By |September 18th, 2017|

There is an eternal truth found in ancient wisdom regarding what it means to be a blessing. Many people strive for success. Some hope for luck. But it seems fewer desire to simply be blessed. When one is blessed they truly cannot take the credit for themselves. To be blessed and to bless others ultimately requires humility. And humility gives no place for the ego of pride that desires to boast about one’s successes, lucks in life or just good fortune. Proverbs 11:25 says, “Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered” (ESV). [...]

Make the Transaction Easy so the Transformation Occurs

By |September 16th, 2017|

If giving money to charity is as hard as it is to purchase a car, then we have a major problem. Yes, most charities have their little “donate here” button on their website or app, but giving big money to public charities can sometimes be too complex with too many lawyers, contracts, and written expectations. Whether we are building an endowment fund, or a donor is having his or her name engraved in stone for life, these kinds of gifts should be easier to make then purchasing a car. Really? When big money is exchanged do we really need [...]

Hunting Your Donors for Blood

By |September 15th, 2017|

Have you ever been trapped by what you’ve said? Have you ever gotten emotionally caught up in a situation where before you knew it, you have already over promised and you know you simply cannot deliver? We’ve all said things we regret, made promises we cannot keep, or even made pledges we cannot financially fulfill. When it comes to charitable fundraising, many donors have found themselves in this place of donor regret. The opening of Proverbs 6 proclaims the following: “My son, if you have put up security for your neighbor, have given your pledge for a stranger, if [...]

Burdens or Blessings?

By |September 14th, 2017|

Have you ever witnessed people who proclaim to be generous or even aid workers who proclaim to care for the hurting and poor to make the very ones they are trying to help jump through unnecessary hoops? I’ve watched social aid to philanthropic aid become filled with red tape, unnecessary obstacles and simply added burdensome requirements for those seeking help. Why? Sometimes it is due to a history of fraud and thus an extreme form of vetting needs to occur. Other times, aid works and volunteers become cruel. Over time, their hearts just harden because of the places and [...]

The Power to Do Good: Just Do IT!

By |September 13th, 2017|

Wisdom proclaims: “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it” (Proverbs 3:27, ESV). This is at times can be a very challenging word to the wise philanthropist. Just think about it, if a person considers themselves to be philanthropic, generous, or just a good citizen desiring to make a positive impact in the world, then they tend to have the financial resources along with other resources to do good. In other words they have the power to do it, to not withhold good. But just because you [...]

5 Principles of Living Philanthropy

By |September 10th, 2017|

Philanthropy is a life-long journey of loving, listening, learning, liberating and finally living your legacy. Since philanthropy is about the love of others, then loving others is required first and foremost if you truly want to live a life of philanthropy. And the foundation that allows you to love others authentically and for their benefit is humility. Without first being grounded in a humble reality that other people need love and they need to be heard, you will never truly create an impact of genuine philanthropic living. For loving is listening. When you listen to the concerns and needs [...]

Your Annual Report Sucks!

By |September 8th, 2017|

Does your nonprofit’s annual report look and feel like all of the other annual reports out there? You have a warm welcoming letter from the founder or founders. You will have lots of fun smiling faces of real people your organization has helped over the past year. You may even have before and after photos especially if your organization performs surgeries for children with cleft lip and cleft palate. Then of course you’ll have some cool charts and bar graphs and pie graphs showing the impact and where all the money is going. This of course tends to show [...]