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Saying No To Giving Requests

By |September 20th, 2017|

No wealth holder, public philanthropist, or even anonymous generous giver ever likes turning down requests for money. People want to be liked and they want to help others in need. But sometimes giving to charities to individuals in need is not the wisest or best way to bring real help. And sometimes it is just not a good time for the generous giver to bless others financially as they may want to do so, due to their own personal lives and finances. Just because someone maybe considered wealthy, does not mean they necessarily have positive extra cash flow to [...]

Advising Grieving Families About Memorial Funds

By |September 19th, 2017|

Often pain drives people to start private foundations, memorial funds, to public charities. In many cases, a fund is created at the death of a loved one to help family and others with expenses and awareness and to memorialize their loved one. The assumption is everyone needs a tax deduction before they will give, therefore, lawyers are often too quick to set up a nonprofit entity to receive such generous gestures of money. Of course this does not happen every time someone dies, but it occurs more often than necessary; especially around the death of young children and teenagers. [...]

What’s it Mean to Be a Blessing?

By |September 18th, 2017|

There is an eternal truth found in ancient wisdom regarding what it means to be a blessing. Many people strive for success. Some hope for luck. But it seems fewer desire to simply be blessed. When one is blessed they truly cannot take the credit for themselves. To be blessed and to bless others ultimately requires humility. And humility gives no place for the ego of pride that desires to boast about one’s successes, lucks in life or just good fortune. Proverbs 11:25 says, “Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered” (ESV). [...]

Burdens or Blessings?

By |September 14th, 2017|

Have you ever witnessed people who proclaim to be generous or even aid workers who proclaim to care for the hurting and poor to make the very ones they are trying to help jump through unnecessary hoops? I’ve watched social aid to philanthropic aid become filled with red tape, unnecessary obstacles and simply added burdensome requirements for those seeking help. Why? Sometimes it is due to a history of fraud and thus an extreme form of vetting needs to occur. Other times, aid works and volunteers become cruel. Over time, their hearts just harden because of the places and [...]

Success in the Sight of Both God & Humanity

By |September 12th, 2017|

The ancient wisdom found in Proverbs proclaims: “Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man” (chapter 3 of verses 3 and 4). One could take these two verses and show what occurs within the character of the philanthropist. If a philanthropist is a person who lives for the love and human flourishing of others, then it only makes sense the philanthropist’s character is one of steadfast love and faithfulness. This faithful [...]

Blessing Those Who Have Blessed You

By |September 11th, 2017|

Who has been a blessing in your life? Who do you need to thank or show gratitude or appreciate more for having been that blessing to you? Maybe it was a teacher years ago that a simply word of appreciation would make the teacher’s life feel worth it all. Maybe it is a doctor, or an attorney or a neighbor that was there for you in a crisis or major time of need? When you think of the mentors and others influencers in your life, how might you be able to bless them in return? It maybe even an [...]

5 Principles of Living Philanthropy

By |September 10th, 2017|

Philanthropy is a life-long journey of loving, listening, learning, liberating and finally living your legacy. Since philanthropy is about the love of others, then loving others is required first and foremost if you truly want to live a life of philanthropy. And the foundation that allows you to love others authentically and for their benefit is humility. Without first being grounded in a humble reality that other people need love and they need to be heard, you will never truly create an impact of genuine philanthropic living. For loving is listening. When you listen to the concerns and needs [...]

You May Overpay to Be a Blessing

By |September 4th, 2017|

When people bless you, it is just natural to want to bless them back. When someone smiles at you, it is just natural to smile back. When we can mirror back positive acts of kindness and generosity, then the world will slowly but surely become a healthier and happier place to live and give. Just recently, a workman gave me a bill for $90 and then said, “because I love you so much I’m going charging a third of what I normally charge people.” This warmed my heart and rather than wanting to take advantage of his generosity, I [...]

Transactional Giving to Transformational Giving

By |September 3rd, 2017|

There was a friend who couldn’t afford some medication, so what do you do? Do let your friend go without the medication, which is very much needed even if it is in your power to purchase it? Well, if you want to be a blessing and live a life of generosity and philanthropy, then you do the loving thing; you purchase the medication for your friend. This maybe just a one-time event that will forever be seared in the heart and mind of your friend, or it may reoccur from time to time. Nevertheless, I know someone who did [...]

Brokenness is Where the Power Is

By |August 28th, 2017|

Brokenness is where the power is. Our past may be filled with hurt, disappointment and regret, but it does not have to disempower you. Use your brokenness to empower your future. Use your passion (i.e. your suffering) to move your future forward. Our pasts may refine us like fire, but it does not have to define us. Use that fire to fuel your future. Remember there is great value in pain. For all pain has a Purpose, by which we can learn and grow and become stronger and healthier and wiser. Or we can allow our pain to destroy [...]